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I will admit it.. I watch ER. And only because it’s a tradition since the day I met my beautiful wife. She’s a nurse and of course it’s been her favorite show for years. It’s an hour every week we sit down together on the couch and spend us time.

But I will also admit, I love the show. I haven’t missed an episode in many years.. and I’ve grown to love the characters.

To the point of this post…

I couldn’t believe it when Sam dumped Tony at the end of this last episode (”The High Holiday”). I understand she is pissed at him for giving in to the children and it leading to her son’s accident.. and she’s gone into protective mode with her child.

But come on! Poor Tony.. having him walk off at the end with the dog. I was sad!

He didn’t mean for what happened to happen.. he made a mistake. He didn’t cause the accident. If someone makes a mistake and it indirectly causes an accident.. well, that’s just something that can’t be blamed. (unless of course, it’s a regular occurrence and you fear for the safety of the child.. buy once?)

She seemed so matter of fact about it.. so I don’t have high hopes they’ll get back together.

And I know it’s just fiction and all.. …but maybe it was something that needed to happen to reveal the true nature of their love and to reveal it wasn’t meant to be.

Anyway! I feel strange as a guy talking about ER.. but, I’m man enough to do it!

And this is a relationship blog right?

What do you think if you saw the show?  Was it justified?

-Joe Taylor

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This may be simple and unnecessary ..  but I thought since this site is about relationships, Wikipedia’s defintion of a relationship might be helpful to someone..

A relationship is a specific connection between objects, entities, concepts or people. Typical forms of relationship are social relationships between people, causal relationships between events, and mathematical or theoretical relationships between components of a modeled system.

Obviously we cover mostly the relationships between people..

Two or More People get’n it on. 

Peace.

-Joe Taylor

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If you missed the first part, you can read it here:

The Essentials of Communication – Part 1

This continues this two-part series on communicating in relationships.

In the last part we cover three different areas to consider so your communication to help you sustain a healthier relationship.

Here’s a couple more areas to keep in mind and work.

1. If you can, avoid lying at all costs! This is a sure ticket to a long and healthy relationship. Build trust and honesty. If you lie on a regular basis it will have a significant impact on your communication. Your partner will begin to not take you seriously or it will simply promote negative feelings and make it difficult to communicate all together.

2. Always try and stay positive. I know this is not always easy thing to do when you’re in a relationship. A lot of things happen
that can make you become negative. But try to step back from the situation and think of something positive.

If you have destructive attitudes towards each other or as a result of certain situations, it will simply lead to a very unhealthy and negative relationship long term. If you have a positive attitude you will promote a much more communicative relationship that will sustain for years to come.

3. Don’t keep things bottled up inside you. Don’t tie up your feelings. Let it out! If you keep things bottled up and suppressed for too long, one day he will let it all out in a deluge of anger and you could potentially hurt the other person in such a way that will take a long time if ever to heal.

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Hopefully this short series has provided you with some key points to help you in your relationship; hopefully it’s provided you some things to work on. Hopefully now you understand the importance of keeping the lines of communicating open.

In doing this you’ll be able develop a very healthy relationship over time. The rewards of its are immeasurable. Trust me!

– Joe Taylor

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One of the most important things you need to consider in a relationship is how well you are communicating with your partner.

I know, I know… you’ve heard it before. But don’t just brush this off. The health of a relationship really depends on how well you communicate with each other in every situation.

Here are just a couple ways you can relate to your partner:

1. If your partner is experiencing something and is telling you about it, DO NOT make fun of them or make them feel foolish. That’s a ticke to disaster right there!

Allow them to share their opinions and feelings no matter what they are. Your partner should be able to speak their minds about things without you sitting there rolling your eyes or mocking their comments.

Support your partner. If you stop doing that it will surely break down your lines of communication. Make sure you reaffirm what they’re saying and recognize that they have the right to express true feelings. Or that you understand them…

2. Make sure you verbalize the differences you have. Let’s face it, you are not always going to get long! This is the case with all couples.

But that’s ok! Just define those differences and then find some middle ground. Without communicating on these things, you’ll run into a lot of problems.

3. Listening is essential to a healthy relationship. Don’t constantly interrupt them when they’re talking. Listen to what they have to say carefully. The key is to take turns talking. If you don’t do this, again, the lines of communication will shut down.

This goes for talking to anyone actually.. how many of you have been with someone that talks over you and interupts you all the time. Not fun! You have to pause to let the other person respond.

In the next e-mail I’m beginning to a few more things related to communications in a relationship that you should consider.

No matter what is important to you in a relationship, you will have more difficult time having what you want from that relationship if you don’t communicate properly.

Read Part 2 Here: The Essentials of Communication – Part 2

-Joe Taylor

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