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Real Life.. definitely. After the show ends…

Did you watch the 3 hour Bachelor Finale? Was it painful for you too?

All you have to do is read some blogs today and comments across the web and you will see a divided crowd. Some just hate Jason for what he did..

I will tell you this though, people can be very different in different environments.

To give you one real life comparison.. My wife before she met me was married to a Marine stationed in Hawaii. She went to visit him there a dozen times before he moved back to her hometown here in Wisconsin.

As soon as he was out of the military environment and took his uniform off, he turned into Mr. Loser *sshole. Her words not mine.

He couldn’t hold a job.. he was rude and insensitive to her, her family and friends. He let himself go.. was a slob.

He simply turned into a different person; and of course, to my benefit, they got a divorce.

Well, giving Jason in the Bachelor the benefit of the doubt, who’s to say that didn’t happen and out of respect he’s not going to go into great detail with the general public?

What if she turned into a real *itch? What if she became controlling.. Maybe it wasn’t that bad, but maybe a combination of minor differences that changed her whole personality.

People are different in different environments. And a show like this is going to have more failures than successes because it’s an unnatural setup. Look.. you can’t force love. And you can’t force decisions. You can’t put a time limit and force someone to choose. It doesn’t work that way in the real world.

The Bachelor works as a show because its’ entertaining and people love soap opera-ish stuff. But as a real model to find your true love, it sucks!

Blend that with caring for multiple people at the same time.. in exotic situations they are in? Wow..

My wife says it’s like they know the “Vacation Person” when they are on the show…

That’s probably the case for a lot of these shows.

As soon as you are back into the real world and have to live a normal life, many things change.. and people will act and even look different.

Maybe Melissa doesn’t shower everyday.. and only did on the show.

Actually.. I loved Melissa. And rooted for him to pick her. She does seem like a really nice and sweet person and I don’t mean any disrespect and wish her the best.

Just trying to look at it logically.

In the end, no one will probably really know what happened.. and Jason has to follow his heart and mind. If he is still with Molly in 10 years living a happy, happy life, then it was the right thing for him to do.

-Joe Taylor

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How bad have you had it? I’ve met a lot of parents over the years… well, since my wife only one set, but before that at least a dozen sets.

There were a number of parents I didn’t get a long with.. or they just didn’t like me. Of course, some of those were the days I had long hair so that didn’t help.

I remember only one out of all the ladies I dated where the parents grilled me with questions.. Yes, well to-do parents. Her dad owned a large, popular insurance agency. So they had money; I’m sure they just wanted to make sure their daughter was dating an outstanding citizen. I have no problem with that.. it’s the cornering approach.

I remember showing up at my dates door.. living with her parents (right there that should have been a bad sign, but she was cute so I went with it..).. having no awareness of what was going to happen.

I was sat down in the Den.. my date disappeared upstairs and I sat there in the spotlight being grilled for what seemed an eternity.. it might have only been 10 minutes.

…This happened when I was in my mid-20s.. imagine the horror!

Have you gone through this?

I’m not talking about the good experiences.. the awful, uncomfortable ones. Or what strange things did you have to endure just to go on the first date?

Needless to say this relationship didn’t last.. too bad too. She was a looker! About 92 pounds soaking wet!

-Joe Taylor

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I’m always looking for ways to stimulate conversation with my Wife. You need to communicate and also… be friends. Joke around… find common interests to discuss.

A great way to light the other up with a smile is to do a ‘Refresh’…

Think back over the past… go back to how you met and what those days were like. Chat about the good times you had.

This is a great thing to do when things get tough and are going through some rough times. You have your memories together; things you have gone through that were fun and positive.

Glue yourself back together with these memories when it seems your world is breaking apart.

One of my wife and I’s favorite memory is when we went to a Sandals Resort in Jamaica after only being together for a few months… GREAT time. GREAT memory.

And it’s so uplifting to think back to that and to look forward to the next time we are able to go there again…

Occasionally Refresh and keep those memories alive! It not only will put a smile on both your faces, but it will re-strengthen that relationship.

- Joe Taylor

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