Relationships, Love and Romance

How bad have you had it? I’ve met a lot of parents over the years… well, since my wife only one set, but before that at least a dozen sets.

There were a number of parents I didn’t get a long with.. or they just didn’t like me. Of course, some of those were the days I had long hair so that didn’t help.

I remember only one out of all the ladies I dated where the parents grilled me with questions.. Yes, well to-do parents. Her dad owned a large, popular insurance agency. So they had money; I’m sure they just wanted to make sure their daughter was dating an outstanding citizen. I have no problem with that.. it’s the cornering approach.

I remember showing up at my dates door.. living with her parents (right there that should have been a bad sign, but she was cute so I went with it..).. having no awareness of what was going to happen.

I was sat down in the Den.. my date disappeared upstairs and I sat there in the spotlight being grilled for what seemed an eternity.. it might have only been 10 minutes.

…This happened when I was in my mid-20s.. imagine the horror!

Have you gone through this?

I’m not talking about the good experiences.. the awful, uncomfortable ones. Or what strange things did you have to endure just to go on the first date?

Needless to say this relationship didn’t last.. too bad too. She was a looker! About 92 pounds soaking wet!

-Joe Taylor

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I know… Oh do I know!.. that action isn’t that easy.

ok… I was that teenager dialing the telephone and hanging up before I finished dialing 150 times. And sometimes I finally just walked away..

It took me years to finally develop the guts to go through with that. And I was still nervous, but I learned to hold my breath and go.

Walking up to a person to talk to them..

Asking a person out on a date..

Making that first phone call..

And every other action that is required to get something moving with another in the love direction..

..it all takes guts and it all takes action.

We fear so many things don’t we? Making a fool out of ourselves. Being rejected.. lack of confidence plays a big roll.

But the only way we find our true soul mates in life is sampling the field! And the only way to do that is to push through.. to hold your breath and dive into the water. It’s like that.. when you are at the edge of what you know will be cold water.. you know once you’re in it you’ll be fine, but it’s that initial shock we fear right?

And you MUST NOT be afraid of failure.. failure is healthy in life. Whether that’s in relationships, business or whatever. That’s how we learn. And that’s how we play the numbers game.

Not everyone is going to be right for you.. but you must try and fail to get to that person that is.

A salesman understands that they have to get so many no’s to get to a yes. It’s the same way with dating.. as long as you understand that failure is part of the process, it will make it easier for you.

See the prize. Understand the numbers.. and get out there and take action. It takes guts.. even I had to get through this.. And once I gained the confidence to strike out, I dated dozens and dozens of women before I met the one I married… You can do it too!

-Joe Taylor

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