Relationships, Love and Romance

This is actually a really interesting article I found related to the science behind being in love with somebody or caring for somebody.

Check it out here:  Romance + Attraction + Oxytocin = Love

It got me thinking though.  If scientists actually figure out what, in our brain, causes the feelings that we feel towards other people, how far off are we for them developing some kind of solution or pill that we can give somebody or take to feel better about our partner or people we are with in general.

Think about this,… you’re having some issues with your relationship and you don’t necessarily want to end that relationship.  Your brain wants to tell your heart to feel something because you don’t want the change.  But you can’t find that solution to make yourself feel better about that relationship naturally; even through therapy!

So.. the good doctor gives you a pill… and you’re happy as a clam!  You can move on with your life and have a more fruitful and exciting time with your partner.

Just found that thought interesting… I’m not saying I’m for or against it.  Will it ever be used? Well there’s a lot of things that we didn’t think should or could be used and are today.

In the end though, no matter what the science says… let’s just think about love and caring for others as a *heart* thing; not a brain thing. What a different world this would be if we lost that…  and stopped trusting or following our hearts.

I’m curious if you have a minute..  what do you think about that?  Do you think science should give us solutions like that?  That would help us change our feelings in the direction our minds and logic want?

-Joe Taylor

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I had a bit of inspiration today so lets see where this takes us.

I thought.. well, maybe I can do a regular post (weekly or whenever an idea comes to mind) of romantic ideas. Ideas you, guy or gal, can pick up and run with. You might see an idea and surprise your significant other out of the blue or plan for an up and coming occasion or holiday.

Much of my focus here at JTs is the ‘after you find’ someone. Not to *find* someone dating so much.., but dating after you *have* someone. And THAT becomes almost more important than the before.

You still have to date the person you are with after you are with them.. even after you are married! You worked hard to get him or her.. don’t let the relationship now go stale and get old.

You always want to have a nice collection of romantic ideas coming at you to keep the ‘Spark’ going!

That’s where Joe comes in.

I’m going to start posting Romantic Ideas right here on the blog. We’ll start with “Romantic Idea #1″ and just start letting them pile up! Who knows.. in a year we might have a few hundred ideas for you.

In the meantime, or even after you have read some of my future posts here, make sure you also pick up my free guide, “Joe’s Guide to Sparking Romance” on the home page.

Be Cool and Keep that Romance Flowing!

-Joe Taylor

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I Posted a new Hubpage: A Medley of Romantic Ideas

No one person is identical and the same is true for relationships. Two individuals with distinct tastes, preferences and ideas make up a couple and it can make finding romantic gift ideas a bit challenging. One gift idea that works for one couple might not work for another! You might just need a bunch of different romantic gift ideas to get your creative juices flowing.

Read More: If You Need Great Romantic Gift Ideas..

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I’ve had several long distance relationships in my past and I’ve had friends who have. The thing is, like most things, it depends on the situation.

I’m hoping that most long distance relationships have some kind of ‘temporary’ element to them; a lot hinges on the length of being apart. I would hope you aren’t committed to keeping it long distance forever. Although it might be quite possible in some rare instance to make that work, I doubt it will in most cases.

How to Make Long Distance Relationships Work?

I think there is one key thing that will make a long distance relationship work. And that’s an eye on the future. You can get to know each other a lot through letters, e-mail and phone; but to make it worthwhile, I think you have to have some destination or at least some chance you can unite in one geographical location someday.

Also, even seeing each other over a weekend here and there can keep the flame lit! Even a few hours.. makes a big difference here and there! It gives you something to look forward too and you recharge your long distance batteries.

Personally I had a long distance relationship where I lived in one city and my gal went to school many hours away. But we knew it was only for a limited time and our courting at that distance was worth while. We dated for about a year from that distance before she moved to where I lived and we continued on normal..

I had a friend here in the U.S. who has been married to a Russian gal for 7 or 8 years. They first communicated by e-mail, phone.. he went to visit her a few times and then she moved here to the U.S. where they are happily married.

Trust me… myself and other friends DID NOT at the time think it would last. But it did to our suprise! Turns out they were a perfect match for each other and have had several children.

They built a foundation through the writing and voice first. It worked! It can work for you too!

If you have chemistry even through writing, web cams, phone and other correspondence you can count that as something! You can learn a lot about each others lives, experiences and habits. In fact, it might be a good thing in that you can catch someone’s negatives before having to commit to living with them or whatever.

Also, remember.. you can send special romantic gifts and do other things long distance.

I think the bottom line is, if you are soul mates, made for each other and have tremendous chemistry, it WILL work!

And if you don’t and you can’t keep the flame lit, then maybe you shouldn’t have been together in the first place. Move on.. there are other fish in the sea.

-Joe Taylor

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