Relationships, Love and Romance

That’s not me saying that by the way.. I am married to a lovely female. Not that there would be anything wrong with me having a boyfriend if I wasn’t married.. and had a serious shift in my desires.

But I know often that question comes up after a breakup right?

And having been on both sides of the coin a few dozen times when I was in my teens and twenties, I have much to say on the topic.

Will he come back? Will he regret ever leaving you?

That always depends on the ‘reason’ for the breakup. There isn’t a right answer.. I know, you wanted one. I do apologize.. but sometimes there isn’t.

I will say I am a ‘hope’ kind of guy (not an Obama fake, just to get me elected, hope kind of guy.. I’m a republican, lol…), but I do believe in hope. I believe that just because something bad happens it doesn’t mean something good can’t come of it or that the pain can’t be reversed.

If you care about someone, you can work on it.

And sometimes.. boys change their minds. I did. I had some relationship I changed my mind about a dozen times I think.

In the end though.. my advice would be to reflect on what went wrong. Hopefully you know the true root of the problem that made him leave you.. and if you can come to terms with that and work on fixing that, great!

Look, The Bachelor’s couple Charlie O’Connell and Sarah Brice broke up because of his problem with drinking right? I caught some of the Bachelor last night.. ladies tell all thing.. and they were on there talking about it. He hasn’t drank in 2 years now and they are ‘working’ on it again – they are back together.

Relationships are not always easy. Most of mine in the past weren’t. Until I met my lovely wife I have today.

But I had to go through all those times.. and wonder if ‘She’ was coming back or thinking about me.. I still think back and wonder if certain women I dated ever think about me.

But, bottom line is, if it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.. and life moves on. If any of those other relationships would have worked out, I wouldn’t have found my soul mate.

If the first relationship I ever had worked out, I would have missed out on dozens of women in between then and now.

…maybe he will come back. Maybe give him some room, but remind him periodically that you still dig him and are still interested. Don’t push him away by being too crazy.. just drop those hints.

And work on it if he’s all that. Because.. you certainly don’t want to be left with the thought the rest of your life; what if I would have just tried and expressed my feelings.. and wouldn’t have just moved on right away.

Good Luck!

-Joe Taylor

Bad Relationships, Compatibility, Forgiveness, Joe's Personal Stories Bad Relationships, breaking up, Dating Advice

How bad have you had it? I’ve met a lot of parents over the years… well, since my wife only one set, but before that at least a dozen sets.

There were a number of parents I didn’t get a long with.. or they just didn’t like me. Of course, some of those were the days I had long hair so that didn’t help.

I remember only one out of all the ladies I dated where the parents grilled me with questions.. Yes, well to-do parents. Her dad owned a large, popular insurance agency. So they had money; I’m sure they just wanted to make sure their daughter was dating an outstanding citizen. I have no problem with that.. it’s the cornering approach.

I remember showing up at my dates door.. living with her parents (right there that should have been a bad sign, but she was cute so I went with it..).. having no awareness of what was going to happen.

I was sat down in the Den.. my date disappeared upstairs and I sat there in the spotlight being grilled for what seemed an eternity.. it might have only been 10 minutes.

…This happened when I was in my mid-20s.. imagine the horror!

Have you gone through this?

I’m not talking about the good experiences.. the awful, uncomfortable ones. Or what strange things did you have to endure just to go on the first date?

Needless to say this relationship didn’t last.. too bad too. She was a looker! About 92 pounds soaking wet!

-Joe Taylor

Joe's Personal Stories confidence, couple experiences, dating, First Date

OK.. I wake up this morning and what’s the first thing I see in my inbox? An e-mail from my wife from her work..

Oooo Lala Pepe Le Pew

Hmmmm… I wonder what this means?

Here are my guesses..

1. She’s just trying to be cute..
2. She is signaling that this would make a good Valentines gift.
3. She’s just really bored at work..

It’s probably all 3. But! Wouldn’t she be surprised if I was thoughtful and ordered this today?

I think so!

-Joe “Lady Killer” Taylor

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This is the first of what will be many, many stories I’ll share with you about my own personal past experiences.. before and after the day I met my wonderful wife of 6 years.

This stems back a bunch of years (pre-wife.. dating scene), but it’s one of those experiences that just sticks in my head.

Now I understand that there are many different types of women.. many shades and variations. Coming from different backgrounds, being brought up in different ways. There are many influences.

And sometimes us guys don’t find this out right away. Normally when we see a really, really cute girl, we just dive right in right!? I did… 95 pounds wet.. red head with a nice frame. I was all over it!

Now there are many things I’d like to tell you about this girl, but I’m just going to focus on one little thing in this post… door opening.

I think I was always used to independent women.. but this girl was totally helpless.

Yes.. I open doors and all that. Always have! Although I do get confused sometimes when you walk into places and there are more then one door you are going through. So do I open door #1? or door #2?.. If I open door #1.. then all the people inside will think I’m not very gentlemen like.. but then if I open door #2, what about all those outside?

….I wonder what she wants me to do? Does it matter? Should I hurt myself and open both somehow?

I digress..

At any rate, I remember we had just got done eating at this nice restaurant.. out on a date.

I get in the vehicle and I’m ready to turn it on when I realized…. She was still outside! Standing by the passenger door! She didn’t say a word. She just stood there!!

It took me about 3 seconds to realize she wasn’t coming in and she was waiting for me to let her in.. I had to get out of my truck, walk around it and open the door for her.

That was the beginning of the end I’m pretty sure…

I have always tried my hardest to be a gentlemen, but.. there is a serious personality flaw in the case I describe above. Am I right.. or am I wrong?

-Joe Taylor

Joe's Personal Stories Bad Relationships, Being a Gentlemen, dating, failure